If there’s anything I have learned from the relationships I’ve had, it’s that feelings might be a great way to start it off but always end up to be the reason for things to end.
The problem might lie with society and how love is portrayed. Whenever we are shown “love” in any form of fiction it’s always about the happy feelings, the joy it brings people to even see each other, the feeling of wanting to be together. The emphasis lies heavily on the spark itself that ignites the flame, but you never see it grow into the comforting fire that will light up the path together. People have learned to value the exciting feelings of the spark more than the cozy fire in such a way that sparks can become an addiction.
Truth is, feelings and love are two entirely different things. Feelings are hormones and chemicals inside your body urging you to mate and reproduce, while love is the value you put into another person for being the person that they are.
While feelings are out of your control and may always shift from one person to another, true love is found in the appreciation of whoever you value, which can never truly fade unless the person changes entirely over time.
Most people have learned that the pursuit of happiness lies within feeding your body the addicting chemicals that make you feel the rush move through your body, and when they have found and lived in the comfort of a lasting relationship those feelings will inevitably fade.
This is the moment where love is put to the test, to see if both participants have a greater understanding of love, or are still enslaved to the tidal waves of their uncontrollable feelings.
I have no idea how much of an influence this has had decades ago, but lasting relationships seem to become something of the past. People nowadays believe that their primal instincts will guide them, and that they are content with a life of chasing their addiction, where-ever it might take them. Most people don’t tend to settle down anymore, and when love gets replaced for a new supplement of high there is nothing left but memories and wasted time.
This is my first blog post, thank you for reading. I hope I made a little bit of sense to you.
See you in the void,
Runyhalya