We’re all together, all alone.
The only one who will ever live your life and experience your experiences the way you do is you. No matter how much time you spend with others, no matter how much you have in common with the people around you, how much of it you decide to share, you are the only one living it your way.
As far as you know this life will be the only one you’ve got, so you should never let anyone force you to live your life in a certain way. Ultimately you are the only one who truly understands what works for you and what does not, and letting others decide for you would be a waste of potential of what could be.
Everyone alive would be much better off if everyone just spent their lives focussing on what seems best to them while mutually understanding that everyone deserves to live a life they want to live.
No, this does not mean that we shouldn’t care about each other, it means just the opposite. We should support each other in everything we do, because by working and living together we can achieve absolutely everything. We should care enough about people to accept their road to happiness, whichever path they choose to walk. And if you were to come and find certain people you appreciate enough to love in any form or way, you can choose to adapt your life to please that person, that choice is yours to make. What you can not do however is expect them to make the same decisions or adapt their lives to yours. Like you, they and everyone else are just trying to make life work for them, and even if they make decisions that you strongly disagree with, them just trying to find their happiness should be enough justification of their actions, and you should live and let live.
It’s not an egoistic thing, it’s actually rather elegant to me to focus on what makes my life work for me when I also respect everyone else focussing on what makes their time a well spent addition to their lives.
I think personally, realizing all of this helped me a lot to get through the sense of loss I’ve felt throughout my life. The loss of friendships, the loss of love, it has given me a sense of serenity knowing that the people I love are out there trying to make their life something they love. Knowing that made me realize I didn’t lose love at all, it all just proves how much I love everyone I have ever appreciated.
This will not guarantee living without regrets though. When it comes to decisions you make in life, is inevitable to make mistakes that might hurt you and/or others. It’s the regrets that show us where we made mistakes, and they will become your guideline of getting to know yourself and learning what you would want in life.
You can’t always get what you want, but it’ll always be your responsibility to go for it. In the end it’s the journey that matters more than the destination, and even though we’re all alone when it comes to living, we can always decide to walk parts of the paths together.
I will meet you in the void,
Runyhalya